Why the Source
of Pleasure and Pain Are the Same
"The Same Thing that
Gives You Pleasure Also Gives You Pain"
What gives you pleasure?
Money, love or health? What gives you pain? Money, love or
health? Yes, the same things because if you have them you feel
pleasure but if you don't have them you feel pain.
When you have money you feel
great but when it's gone you start to feel pain. When you have love
you feel wonderful but if it disappears you feel hurt and sorrow.
When your health is there, you enjoy it and when it isn't there, pain is
there instead.
This can be like an emotional
roller-coaster for you. Up and down, twisting and turning until you
are ready to throw up. Would you want to stay on that roller-coaster
forever? How can you finally get off this scary ride?
First Understand The Source
When you don't have either of
those things that give you pleasure you are thinking about how great it
was when you had them. Or you are thinking about when they will
return and how you will feel once they do.
You are thinking about either the past or the future but not the present. This is both the power and danger of having the ability to bring the past or the future into the
present.
If you have ever thought
about time travel, think again because you are already doing it. Not
physically of course but in your mind. An experience from your past,
either good or bad can be recalled and lived in your present. Your
imagination can also let you experience things that may happen in the
future right now, also good or bad.
This is truly a powerful gift
that people have but often use in the wrong way. Using positive
memories from the past or imagining wonderful things in the future can
help you succeed. But you must use your power in the
right way.
If you are focusing on a
future where the worst things happen to you then you are using your power
the wrong way. If you keep seeing your past as something that will
never be again then you are again misusing your power.
You don't live in the past.
And you don't live in the future yet. The only point in time where
you live is right NOW. You have a choice and can think about the
past, future or simply about right now. One of the best success
tools you have is to use the past and future to create a new NOW.
Getting Off The Emotional Roller-Coaster
If you can understand that
you may be spending too much time in the past missing what was or
worrying about a future that may be, then decide to stop right NOW.
Let the past bad memories and
future problems go. Decide that that they have no control over you
and that you will choose not to think about them. Release them and decide
that this moment is yours and you will do what you want with it.
To use your past in the right
way, recall only times when you were exceptional or did something amazing.
Draw on these experiences to think that you can easily do this again.
To use your future in the
best way, imagine only positive things happening to you. If you find
yourself imagining an unpleasant future decide that that is one
possibility and choose a better one.
It's always your choice, but
you can choose to focus on the present or the past or the future.
How you do this is important to your success and you always have the power of
choice.
Choose to get off that
emotional roller-coaster and control your thoughts so that they are in the
present. Only use the past or future in a positive manner to help
envision your success.
You bought a ticket on that
ride but you can choose to get off it when you wish. All you have to
do ...
is
decide now to use your power the right way.
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