How to Discover What You Want

If You're Not Sure About What You Want Try This Three Step Method to Find Out

If you have any doubts about what it is that really want, here's a simple method to discover the real truth.  You can find the answers to you want easily and in only minutes.

In almost every success program or book written there is always a chapter or section about goals and how important they are.  It's been repeated thousands of times in as many ways.

You don't need to be reminded about setting goals again.  But what about that noise you hear in the background of your mind?  How do you sort through all the thoughts you have and find what's important to you?

If you could review the thoughts you had yesterday, you could find hints about what it is that you really want or need.  It might be something completely different than that new job, car or home you said you wanted.

There is an easy and simple way to find out if the goals you have made are what you really want.

This will take you only few minutes and you can do this almost anytime you are alone and can relax.  You will also need a notepad and pen or pencil that can be within your reach.

Step 1 - Relax Your Body and Mind

Find a comfortable place where you can sit or lie down without being disturbed.

Darken the room to your liking and turn off anything that could distract you such as the radio, television, telephone or computer.

Relax on your favourite chair or couch, loosen any tight clothing and if you prefer, remove your shoes.

Once you have relaxed your body, try to relax your mind by thinking of nothing except perhaps a place that you find comforting.  It could be a tropical beach or simply a cozy setting in front of a fireplace.

Breathe slowly and let your mind relax as much as possible.

Step 2 - Ask Yourself What You Really Want

After a few minutes both your body and mind should be in a relaxed state.  Quietly, but firmly ask yourself the following question three or more times.  "What do I want?"

Repeat this several times and then just stop.  Wait quietly and continue to stay relaxed both mentally and physically.

If you are patient and wait a short time you will find that thoughts will enter your mind suddenly.  It may be only one thought, a few or even many.

Listen to these thoughts but don't try to analyze them.  It may not be what you expect but don't seem surprised at them.

If you have never done anything like this before it may take a few attempts to get any answers.

End you relaxation session by thanking yourself for any answers you received and decide to slowly rise from your chair or couch.

Step 3 - Write the Answers Down

While these thoughts are fresh in your mind, pick up your notepad and pen or pencil and write them down.  Try to do this just as you heard them without attempting to analyze them.

These are the thoughts from within that are telling you the real story about what you want or need.

You may want to do this exercise more than once for confirmation or just out of curiosity.

What to Do Next

Take the notes you just made and compare them to what you have already considered to be your goals.  Did you find any differences?

Examine them carefully and you may find you want to change your goals a little or rewrite them entirely.  Or it may be that you were exactly right in the first place.

The least you will get out of this exercise is greater confidence that your choice of goals was the best possible.

Remember that as you reach your goals you will change and so will what you want.  You should repeat this exercise whenever you have any concerns or doubts about what you want.

Isn't it a good idea to ask someone who knows?

Ask an expert, ask yourself.

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